“ FRIENDSHIP AND LOVE ”

 

By: Kumar Rahul, B.Ch.E. (Hons.)

 

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Recently, one of my friends asked our group of friends: "Which one is more important in life: Love or friendship; which one is more powerful? " Lots of guys were confused and marked the question as a difficult one. But I tried. I hope it will be interesting for you, to read my view:

 

In my opinion, while friendship is more important in life, love is more powerful.

 

Friendship is cultivated; it is nurtured by every moment shared by the friends. Friendship happens mostly in like-minded people only. Or persons of similar background, or similar thinking.

 

But Love is something that is uncontrolled. You don't know and you start loving someone. Any similarity is not a pre-condition. In fact, most of us love someone who is entirely dissimilar to ours. It is often said: "Love is blind."

 

Friendship is a two-way process. For a successful friendship, both of you need to like each other. But one way love is possible. Some people spend their entire life without revealing their love to their partner. Nothing like this happens in friendship. Friends express their friendship very often.

 

Often, friends remain friends for life-long, while lovers get apart.

 

Love is more universal. We can love a child, our grandfather, our college, or our country. But nothing like this happens with Friendship.

 

Friendship is a healthier relationship. One doesn't force his/her friend to remain only his/her friend. You can have a number of friends at the same time. But love turns possessive. The partners expect the other's loyalty with him/her. Friends often forgive each other. But lovers often break apart or their relation gets tensed on small issues.

 

A large number of Hollywood marriages fell apart. Because the actors and actresses have grown in a habit of being friends with so many people at the same time. They find it difficult to remain loyal to a particular partner.

 

Friendship is more important. Throughout our lives, we take help of friends. Life would become very difficult, if we don't have a good number of friends. We make gatherings, we enjoy weekends, and we share gifts in friendship. Friendship allows us to learn from our friends. As we can have a lot of friends, we get a good exposure. But if love turns too possessive, often it kills the enjoyment. Friendship is superior to love.

 

Love is powerful. Often, it makes us take wrong decisions. Those who have little control over their emotions, fall in love, and break so many relations, just to get related with their lover.

 

So I say, friendship is more important, but love is more powerful.

 

If you like my view, just smile, this is all I want.

 

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Some inspirational quotes on Love and Friendship:

 

Love and happiness remind me of sticky peanut butter. When you spread them around, you can't help but end up getting some on yourself!

 

Sometimes the heart sees what is invisible to the eye.

 

It is not how much you do, but how much Love you put into the doing that matters.

— Mother Teresa

 

A friend can tell you things you don't want to tell yourself. — Frances Ward Weller

 

A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart and can sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words.

 

When a friend is in trouble, don't annoy him by asking if there is anything you can do. Think up something appropriate and do it. — Edgar Watson Howe

 

Similarities create friendships while differences hold them together. — Unknown

 

A friend is a present you give yourself. — Robert Louis Stevenson

 

In prosperity, our friends know us; in adversity, we know our friends. — John Churton Collins

 

True friendship is seen through the heart not through the eyes. — Unknown

 

The only way to have a friend is to be one. — Ralph Waldo Emerson

 

Never explain — your friends do not need it and your enemies will not believe you anyway.

—Elbert Hubbard

 

To fall in love is easy, even to remain in it is not difficult; our human loneliness is cause enough. But is a hard quest worth making to find a comrade through whose steady presence one becomes steadily the person one desires to be. — Anna Strong

 

Gravitation is not responsible for people falling in love. — Albert Einstein

 

If you judge people, you have no time to love them. — Mother Teresa

 

Relationships — of all kinds — are like sand held in your hand. Held loosely, with an open hand the sand remains where it is. The minute you close your hand and squeeze tightly to hold on, the sand trickles through your fingers. You may hold onto some of it, but mostly it will be spilled. A relationship is like that. Held loosely, with respect and freedom for the other person, it is likely to remain intact. But hold too tightly, too possessively, and the relationship slips away and is lost.

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